Sacrificing Our Children to the Nation-State

It's surprisingly cheap for me to feel good about myself--I "ate fresh" AND helped out a soldier. "Out of the way, people! Three heroes coming through--Me, the soldier, and my sandwich."

Not too long ago, while I was guiding the sandwich artist in the creation of my Subway sub, a man in a military uniform walked in. Man? I suppose he was a man…. If he wasn’t in a uniform, I would have called him a kid–He couldn’t have been more than a year or two out of high school. Anyway, I decided (for some reason–probably more for me to feel good about myself than to “thank him for his service,” whatever THAT means) to buy his meal. It was no grand gesture–I mean, $5 footlongs is a great time for a Dutch man to buy someone’s meal (way better than when you’re at Stoney River)–but it reassured me that I was a pretty good guy as I handed the dude at the register $10 and told him to use it to pay for the soldier’s meal. It might not have even gotten paid for–The employee might have thought that I was giving him a tip, because his English (as it seems is often the case with Subway employees) was limited. Either way….

This sort of thing happens at the restaurant every so often: A stranger buying a soldier’s meal or buying a round of drinks. It always seems like a nice gesture, but when I think about all of the things these young men and women are forced to deal with, it also feels very hollow. “Thank you for giving four years of your life, seeing friends and strangers die, and most likely coming home with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder–Have a beer.”

This is the way God feels about us.

For my day job, one of the things we do is go to Fort Campbell to do presentations for the 2nd and 3rd graders who attend the schools on base. There are six schools on base–Six whole schools full of kids with one or both of their parents sent away to fight. The 3rd graders see our Child Abuse Prevention program (there are high rates of abuse in families on military bases), and the 2nd graders see a program about dealing with deployment and reintegration in their families and getting their feelings out. I have yet to get through one of the 2nd grade shows without tearing up. These kids have to deal with a lot of shit that 7 year olds shouldn’t have to deal with–like ways to handle the daily fear of someone telling them that their mom or dad has died. Or having a father come home from war a different person than when he left….

Anyone who knows me probably knows that I believe that war and Jesus are about as incompatible as Republicans and social programs that help the poor. Today at work while looking up information for a fundraiser, I came across some troubling statistics dealing with suicide in the military. Men and women (but especially men) in the military are killing themselves at record numbers. Please consider this:

  • People in the military are more than twice as likely to commit suicide; four times more likely among male veterans aged 20 to 24 .
  • In 2009, more members of the armed forces committed suicide than were killed in the war in Afganistan.
  • For every death, at least five members of the armed forces were hospitalized for attempting to take their life.
  • And there are many ways to end your life…. These statistics do not take into account soldiers whose deaths are linked with excessive speed or driving under the influence–“In 2008, veterans who served in Iraq or Afghanistan were 75 percent more likely to die in an auto accident than non-veterans and 148 percent more likely to die in a motorcycle crash. Suicide statistics also do not count deaths that are classified as accidental drug-related overdoses.”*
  • And that’s just stats for people who are in active duty–Of the more than 30,000 suicides in this country each year, fully 20% of them are acts by veterans. That means on average 18 veterans commit suicide each day (for those of you who are wondering, about 7% of the population is a veteran).

    Source: U.S. military branches (2001-09) and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (latest figures through 2006) Credit: Adrienne Wollman

If these statistics don’t hurt something deep inside you, they should. And this doesn’t even go into numbers on veterans who come home with traumatic brain injuries, or end up homeless, or unemployed, or even the high number that go on to commit violent crimes. Something has got to be done.

So the government’s response to this epidemic of suicides in the armed forces is to try to provide counseling to the returning soldiers. They get off the plane, and they are asked to check a box that says “I’ve been thinking about killing myself.” These soldiers, trained to be in control, are given the option to say “I need help.” And checking that box will almost certainly delay the reunion with their families that they have been waiting for 16 months for…. It doesn’t seem like a very good plan. Please don’t get me wrong–I think we should be throwing every resource we have at them. Seriously. Spare no expense. But what if the problem isn’t lack of training or lack of support when they come home? What if the problem is war itself? What if we are just not meant to kill–even for something deemed a “Just War” (which, by the way, this war in which we have been engaged now for longer than World War II IS NOT)?

And with it, we'll bring a Walmart.

In the essay Sacrificing the Sacrifices of War, Stanley Hauerwas writes, “No sacrifice is more dramatic than the sacrifice asked of those sent to war, that is, the sacrifice of their unwillingness to kill. Even more cruelly, we expect those that have killed to return to ‘normality.'” When a young man enlists in the armed forces, they don’t want a person who seems eager to kill. They don’t want an army of murderers–Normal people possess an inherent unwillingness to kill. But then they take that young man and ask him to lay that part of himself (that part that is unwilling to kill) down–At the alter of the Nation-State. And then, we ask them to keep the horrors that they have seen to themselves. “Thank you for your service. Please don’t talk about what killing people does to your spirit. Here, let me buy you a round of drinks, shake your hand, and go on pretending like I’m not partially responsible for the demons you face.” It’s tragic.

This piece of art was made with weapons from Mozambique’s 17 year civil war. Plowshares, baby....

We have to do something. And the “We” in that sentence is the church. Hauerwas goes on to say, “The first task of the church is not to make the world more just, but to make the world the world. That claim is but a correlate of the assertion that the church does not have a social ethic. Rather the church is a social ethic.” America might be willing to view these brave men and women as the broken eggs needed to make an Omelet of Democracy (a great name for a band, by the way), but followers of Jesus Christ cannot. When Christians support war (with our words or our votes), we not only propagate the system that births statistics like the ones above, we disgrace and soil the name of Jesus. Jesus–Whose words and actions and life resonate with the world to be true, but whose followers’ willingness to kill (or, more rightly their willingness to have some poor, disadvantaged kid kill for them) convicts the world of nothing more than the Church’s hypocrisy.

One more quote from Hauerwas (I really like this guy): “But through the forgiveness made possible by the cross of Jesus we are no longer condemned to kill.  A people have been created who refuse to resort to the sword that they and those they love might survive.” Amen.

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6 Responses to Sacrificing Our Children to the Nation-State

  1. littlebyrdie says:

    i wanted to comment with something profound. but really, all i can come up with is: thanks-thanks for writing this.

  2. Do you remember that time at Grace Center when we gave, like $200K to rebuild a church in Fairview? I liked that day a lot. That’s the kind of social program that I get behind wholeheartedly. Another kind I’m committed to is helping returning soldiers deal w/physical trauma and PTSD. I’m available to them on Skype and by cell, and I’ve had calls from Afghanistan, Iraq and Ft. Hood in the midst of crisis. We have offices at Ft. Campbell and here in Nashville, and if you know of anyone in the military who needs assistance, or who’s floundering, please point them toward Reboot Combat Recovery. ( It’s an amazing program. I’ve found one of the biggest things our military personnel struggle with is guilt and hatred — both from the anti-military voices in our country and themselves. The setting aside of their unwillingness to kill, as Hauerwas so aptly penned, is at the root of so many issues, and when coupled with many voices telling these troops their sacrifices are meaningless and resented, I can understand their despair and hopelessness. It sucks to be invalidated. My mission is to show them otherwise. They have value to God, that same God who redeems a pharisee who hunted Christians (specifically follwers of the Nazerene) for sport. Chris, you’re a teacher — you teach. It’s what you do, and I’d wager, who you are. Some of us are warriors. We stand on the wall. We fight (some with weapons, some in the spirit, some against the lies the enemy works to have people believe, a la self-hatred). Like your calling to teach, it’s a calling for some. I’m anti-war. (Yes, really, I am). But as long as there are warriors, I will fight for them to be restored. Even the centurion was given recognition in the Bible as a man of great faith. Thank you for your heart to reach the kids at Ft. Campbell. Thank you for caring enough to write about your lunch at Subway, that was more of a laying open of your soul and the soul of the American church. It was both painful and beautiful to read the account.

    • theboeskool says:

      I liked that day too, Leilani. Thanks for your comment. And I know there are republicans who get behind some social programs (even state-sponsored ones)–I was trying to add a little humor into a post that needed it. Keep up the good work!

  3. Kiyome says:

    I am moved by your observant, intelligent, humorous, honest, painful and deeply caring essay. I am not even a Christian (haha, but true). Neither have I read any of your blogs before but from this I can tell you are a very good writer – keep going! I was looking at news releases and war statistics all day and I just kind of stumbled upon this, someone actually speaking meaningfully, not just the numbers although those are shocking and important to know. Thank you for being human and looking at the humanity in other people in some of the most difficult situations. Thank you for sharing this and for the teaching job you described. Peace be with you.

  4. Pingback: For Memorial Day, The U.S. Army Asked, “How Has Serving Impacted You?” It Did NOT Go As They Had Planned… | The Boeskool

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